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Myth: Marriage Counseling is Hard Work and No Fun

Marriage counseling is hard work

Everyone has their own image of therapy. Some people believe there must be a lot of homework, a lot of time ruminating over and over on your issues, and to get to the bottom of marital problem you need to go back to almost birth for both parties.

There is work involved but the work is uncovering what is already inside you. Marriage therapy with me does not involve anything but bringing your best self to the session and being open to listening, learning from your partner and yourself. The hardest part for many people is simply learning to notice what's happening inside them as it's happening.

Marriage counseling is no fun!

Obviously few people are coming to my door in blissed out happiness. They have some problems that are causing relationship stress and they're seeking answers. This does not mean, however, that I'm going to be some robot, incapable of smiling or cracking a joke (or laughing at your jokes) through the trust-building process of therapy. In my experience, humor can often grease the wheels of the relationship-building process.

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