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Myth: Therpay Gives You Fancier Ways of Nagging

More of the same?

Many couples reach a point in their relationship where talking, rather than being a way to connect and understand, instead feels more like a battle, where each person is trying to "win" the conversation, or at least keep from losing.

When people think of couples counseling, they often think of it as just more talking: finding new and more articulate ways of essentially doing the same old thing, but with the addition of psychobabble to one or both people's speech. After all, if talking hasn't helped before now, why would anything be different now that you've learned to say "I feel" in front of your statements?

Transform the way you talk and connect

In my role as your counselor, I am much more interested in how you're both feeling as you talk together than I am about whether you're using the "correct" language or following the "correct" pattern: if one or both of you are feeling unheard, frustrated, or unimportant, then that's what's important to me.

Moving forward with this approach means noticing what you're feeling as you talk with each other, and talking to those feelings directly when they start to get in the way. When you're able as a couple to deal with your emotional obstacles as they come up, you'll not only be able to talk effectively about what you need to talk about, you'll also find yourselves feeling closer and more connected to each other in the process.

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Counseling is all work and no fun

Counseling is anti-male

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